An Unfinished Book

On one of those rare occasions when I rummage through the attic (figuratively speaking) of old file folders, notebooks and computer discs, I happened on the all-but-forgotten beginnings of A Theory of Self and Personal Relationships Ėa book I started writing in 1992. For several reasons, known to me and to the series editor, the book foundered after (or perhaps during) the completion of Chapter 3. Even so, parts of what I did complete may be interesting to several categories of relationship scholars and students. Two such categories come to mind: 1) students and younger scholars who might like a perspective on how relationship researchers were plying their trade back then (things havenít really changed much), and 2) "older" scholars who are familiar with my past work and would like a full, frank, and (overly?) personalized account of how I was viewing the field and its output at that time (this hasnít changed much, either).

The following outline should assist potential readers in deciding which, if any, portions of the linked manuscript they might find worth a closer look. My guess is that the greatest number of readers will be most interested in the 11 or so pages comprising the first major section of Chapter 1, i.e., "The 'Field' of Personal Relationships."


The Manuscript

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OUTLINE: A THEORY OF SELF AND PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

INTRODUCTION

Let's Be Friends ... In a Limited, Metaphorical Sense
Moving Toward a Personal Modus Operandi

CHAPTER 1: ORIENTATION

The "Field" of Personal Relationships: A View from the Trenches
Defining the Field
Healthy, Bewildering Diversity
What, Then, Makes the Field a Field?
Stretching the "Relationship Paradigm"
A "Private" Modus Operandi
The Theory in Synopsis
Origins of the Theory
Nature of the Theory and its Niche in the Relationship Field
Plan for the Remainder of the Book

CHAPTER 2: CONCEPTIONS OF THE PERSON IN RELATIONSHIP RESEARCH

Whys and Wherefores of a Focus on Persons
Conceptions of the Person: An Embarrassment of Riches?
Current Emphases in Relationship Studies
Exchange, Equity, and Investment Theories
Individual Differences in Needs and Styles
Interpersonal needs
Attachment styles and love styles
The Self and Self-related Concepts

CHAPTER 3: A PERSPECTIVE ON THE PSYCHOLOGY OF SELF

The Focus on Self Psychology
The Field of Self Psychology and its Conundrums
Two Hypothetical Situations and Two Basic Distinctions
Hypothetical situation #1
Hypothetical situation #2
Two basic distinctions
The Entity Identified as Self
Self-attributes and their Development
What is a self-attribute?
The development of self-attributes
The Identification and Organization of Self-attributes.
The identification of self-attributes
The organization and "integration" of self-attributes
Self-referent Motivation: Where the Rubber Meets the Road
Summing it All Up